I was having lunch with some friends this weekend. Just the typical catch-up conversation at the local vegetarian restaurant about what we had missed in each other’s lives over the past month. One of my friends was going back to work after recently having a baby. We were discussing the choices she was making to support this return–day care, pumping, re-arranging work schedules, and so on and so on.
She had accepted her new reality but I became sad just listening to her. It seemed like satisficing. In an ideal world, the solution was so obvious–work (if you want) and bring your kid along. Or if no, stay home with the niño. It’s the way we’ve lived for thousands of years because it works. But somewhere along the line, we got lost.
In this moment, it became so clear to me at that we as human beings are not supposed to live this way. We’re now wrong…out of wack. My friend’s situation is just a small example of the wrong turn we took many years ago. The way we eat, the way we work, the way we live just isn’t natural–and by ”natural” I mean it doesn’t serve our overall well-being.
Often I feel like meditation, church, and prayer are just band-aids we use to get us through our daily grind, like a cast to support a permanently broken ankle. As long we have these supports, many of us can hobble along for months, even years, working 12 hour days, eating from fast food drive-ins and paying mortgages but at what costs? Damaged health and empty relationships?
I believe in the power of growing from overcoming challenges and adversity. What I don’t believe in is the unprecedented levels of meaningless stress created by our modern lifestyles. Change has to come. And I see mutterings of it everywhere–yoga and mediation have gone mainstream. People are slowly weaning themselves off cell phones and making more conscious choices about the food they put in their bodies. Even my beloved MyMantra stems from this desire for more meaning and connection in life.
I think 5 to 10 years from now, we will reach our own tipping point when it will become painfully obvious the price we are paying for our choices and the new direction we need to take. Maybe if we’re lucky, it won’t take that long.
Many blessings,
Tiffany



