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September 13, 2009

"Beauty. Wisdom. Truth. Joy."

Life-is-short-canvas-web-th.gifMany times, people have inquired about the MyMantra tagline of "Beauty. Wisdom. Truth. Joy." What exactly does it mean? The goal of MyMantra is to provide products to promote greater meaning in your everyday life. MyMantra products remind you to slow down and be more mindful of what is most important in your life. In the larger scheme of things, life is short, and it becomes even more important to recognize, celebrate and enjoy the abundance we've been given. Our tagline is an extension of this goal. I wish for you a life filled with the awareness of beauty, power of wisdom, courage of truth and expression of joy. I wish for you all these things and more.

Many blessings,

Tiffany

August 05, 2009

Michelle Obama and the Politics of Hair - A Personal Spiritual Journey

We all beamed at the sight of our new first lady on the news. How beautiful she is? How poised and confident? How accomplished? How loved and admired she is around the world? We've ooohed and ahhed over her wardrobe, as well as her arms. As an African-American woman, I beamed with pride but I knew it was only a matter of time before the fascination spread to hair-her perfectly coiffed bob. And from what's recently been circulating in the blogosphere, it seems like America has arrived on cue because with African-American women, eventually, it always comes down to hair.

Hair can often be a touchy subject in the African-American community. Do you braid? Do you relax? Do you weave? Do you wear naturally? And want does your hair say about you in your professional life and your community. Could you suddenly find yourself ostracized in the workplace because your hairstyle might be considered threatening to some in corporate America? Or could you find yourself criticized by in the African-American community for refusing to conform to the traditional standards of chemically straightened hair.

As an African-American woman pursuing a professional career, I had thought incessantly about the politics of hair before deciding to wear my hair naturally. After a lifetime of soul searching, I had finally come to peace with my hair. I began reflecting on my own spiritual journey precipitated by my hair texture.

Previously, I had worn my hair chemically relaxed, braided, weaved and everything in-between but had always wanted to wear it natural. The majority of my friends and family I spoke to at the time were not supportive of my desire for natural hair. As a recent college graduate, everyone voiced concerns about me being able to find a job, as well as a mate without chemically straightened hair. However, after years of the costs and pain of chemically straightening my hair, I had enough. So ten years ago, one hot summer day, I cut off all of my chemically straightened hair and began wearing my tight kinky hair in a short twisted afro cut close to my scalp.

It was freeing! No more chemical relaxers! No more pain! Two years later, I took an even bolder step and began wearing my hair in locs. I loved it. Every month, year after year, I would watch my locs, along with my own self-acceptance, grow inch by inch down my back. Don't get me wrong. I've had my moments. There have been comments. There have been questions. There have been looks. But it's been a small price to pay for the privilege of just being able to be me.

Like Michelle Obama and me, each African-American woman must make a personal decision about whether to wear her hair naturally or chemically straightened. I believe hair just like clothing, make-up, jewelry and even our bodies themselves are surface. You use them as a vehicle to express your spirit-who you are on the inside and who you are striving to be.

Why do I wear locks? I wear them because I like the way they feel. I like the way they look. I like the smiles I get and give to other locked people and others who have chosen to wear their hair naturally. I like what my locks represent to me-a symbol of my spiritual journey toward unconditional self-love and pride in my heritage.

Many blessings,
Tiffany

August 03, 2009

Things Fall Apart

gardenMay was challenging. June was murky. July was a blur. I’m only now beginning to emerge from a particularly rough spring and summer due to numerous unforeseen work and personal stressors. I'm back now, however, there have been some casualties, including my social life, my blog, and the most visual sign, my container herb garden. Yep, it was bad. I was so distracted, tending to my garden was the lowest item on the priority list. As result, I almost lost my parsley to the heat and my basil to seed. This weekend, I took the time to water, fertilize and sit with my garden. It was one of the most relaxing days I've had in months. Yes, sometimes things fall apart. And sometimes, the only thing you can do when they do is gather all the pieces and go from there.

Many blessings,
Tiffany   

March 08, 2009

Where Nobody Knows Your Name

I worked with a woman many years ago who decided to change her name. She told me she was given her father's last name at birth, then after marriage, took her husband's last name. After her divorce, she kept her ex's last name for the sake of her children. When her children grew up and moved out of the house to start lives of her own, she decided it was time to focus on herself. Finding a new name would be a symbol for the beginning of her new life. So she took out a phone book and arbitrarily chose a page. She closed her eyes and then randomly picked out her new last name. I remember her seeming so peaceful and free. I met another woman at a conference who decided to legally change her name to "Digger." She had never liked the name her parents gave her so now in her fifties, she decided to change it. As she told me her story, she too seemed to share this feeling of freedom and happiness. Both of these women have stayed with me over the years. Words are powerful. There's just something in a name. Sometimes, it's equally empowering to go where nobody knows your name.

Many blessings,
Tiffany

 

 

February 23, 2009

Spirit at the Oscars

By now you've all heard all the news about the Oscars. You know who all the winners are. You've seen the dresses. You've heard the speeches. One speech particularly stood out for me in its spiritual simplicity. (And It wasn't Sean Penn's although he was very good last evening). It was A. R. Rahman, who one two academy awards yesterday for composing the score for the feel-good, movie juggernaut, Slum Dog Millionaire. Upon accepting his award, he said, "I always had a choice between love and hate in my life. And I chose love, and I am here." Sometimes you need moments like this to remind you that love and kindness DO reap rewards --- often bigger ones than you've ever dreamed possible. What do you think? 

Many blessings
Tiffany

February 19, 2009

Keeping your word...to yourself

It's hard to keep your word. Sometimes things come up and promises have to be broken. Visits back home are postponed due to weekend work schedules. Closets remained cluttered because it's fall and you only do "spring cleaning." The slumber party for the kids never happens because you haven't finished the basement repairs. Life happens. Enough said. But I believe keeping your word, especially to yourself, is an important skill to master. I say "skill" because it can be developed and improved over time. In his book, The Four Agreements, Don Miguel Ruiz encourages everyone to be impeccable with their word. I believe this is so important when it relates to yourself. It's a simple case of the golden rule. Treat people the way you would like to be treated. And YOU count as one of those people. In my opinion, keeping your word keeps you spiritually solvent. So clean those closets and plan those slumber parties! And I will take my vitamins and hit the gym. Because if you can't trust you, who will?

Many blessings,
Tiffany

January 26, 2009

Overwhelmed? Welcome!

Overwhelmed? Welcome to the club! Unfortunately, now is the time where the novelty of the new year begins to wear off, and we slowly ease back into the busy routine of our lives. I understand firsthand. When you are an entrepreneur -- you wear 10 different hats at the same time. Combine that numerous other activities, including: making time for volunteer projects, trying to pursue a social life, keeping in touch with friends and family, exercising, paying the bills, grocery shopping, keeping your home in order, breathing, and not to mention caring for a demanding cat, and you can slow spiral out of control. Whew! It's a challenge. Sometimes I don't succeed every day in holding it all together. But I make an effort even if sometimes that effort is made from my couch in front of the TV with a jar of Nutella :). But eventually, you have to let it go. Whatever that "it" may be. I do what I can, and the rest will wait. What about you? How do you cope during these busy days?

Many blessings,
Tiffany

December 07, 2008

Find Your Passion

As the days get shorter and we feel the onset of winter, we're often reminded of the importance of rest, renewal and contemplation. You might think it would be an odd time to chart life goals and discover individual passions. But I can think of no more perfect time to slow down and evaluate. I recently had the opportunity to be interview by Aspire Magazine about discovering and living my own passion. My passion, currently expressed through MyMantra, centers around having the opportunity to reach others in a positive way and remind them how great they and life truly are. (Click here to view a pdf of the article). The article reminded me how important is to make time to do the things we love. So take the time now to contemplate your own passion. Soon spring will be on its way and then it will be time to bring those passions to life!

Many blessings,

November 08, 2008

America's Promise

It's been four days. The celebration of Barack Obama's historic win of the Presidency is just beginning to set into the consciousness of our country. As an African American woman, I am especially proud to see him ascend to the highest position in our government. I think it is a testament to the healing we have undergone as a nation in regards to race. But I also think it represents a growing desire of the American people for more truth, leadership and inspiration from our elected officials. And although his election in itself is something that could not have been predicted even a year ago, what I am most astonished by is the reaction from the world. When Barack Obama was named the projected winner of the Presidency, news traveled around the world in an instant. Images flashed across our television screens from Germany, France, Great Britain, Kenya, Japan and Australia--all celebrating our new President and the belief that the promise of America was still alive. There was joy, hope and yes, tears from a world of supporters who did not have a vote but had a stake in our election. After the difficulty of the past years, it's wonderful to again be living up to the greatness that is America. 

Many blessings,
Tiffany

October 08, 2008

Tough Times Ahead?


As many of you have read or heard on the news, our economy is not on the strongest of grounds lately. Many blame individuals for taking on more than they could afford in mortgages. Others blame the greed from Wall Street for lending to them in the first place. And even others blame the government for the lack of financial regulation. I'm not sure what factors are most to blame but I detect an undercurrent of beliefs which may have affected all parties involved. And that is a drive for "more." You've heard it before......"modern society has become increasingly materialistic." But why? Don't get me wrong. I am a big fan of living well. But I also believe living well is much bigger than the "things" you can acquire. "Things" have become synonymous with happiness. So the more things you have, the happier you are. I hear a lot of blame going around but maybe, we've just been feverously seeking the happiness and success we desire in a place it can't be found. I guess it all starts with us looking in the mirror at the actions we take everyday which equate success, happiness, and well-being to things. Do you agree?

Many blessings,
Tiffany  

September 19, 2008

Confessions of a Silent Blesser


I admit it. I'm a silent blesser. Walking down the street, in the airport, in line at the bank, at the grocery store and in traffic. Chances are if I've come across your path in any of these circumstances--man, woman, child, plant or beast--you have been randomly blessed by me. Nothing elaborate. Just a simple thought of "bless you." Sometimes, however, based on the state of the object of my blessing and/or mine at the time, some have warranted a little more elaboration. I can't say I have any tangible evidence those I've attempted to bless saw any real benefit, if for no other reason than I never actually see them again. But how knows (SHRUG)? I know it helps me. I look at my silent affirmations as positive thoughts added to the many that circulate in our spiritual eco-systems. Maybe it helps more than I know. Try it sometime and let me know what you think.

Tiffany

August 06, 2008

Seven Generations and Counting

Seventh Generation is a new term being floated around to discuss the sustainability of today's natural resources. It is also the name of the company, Seventh Generation, (of which I am a fan) which makes environmentally friendly household and cleaning products. Both uses of the term are derived from Native American folklore, which says that "in our every deliberation we must consider the impact of our decisions on the next seven generations." I was struck by how profound of a message this is. How would our lives be different if we recognized the impact that our individual choices will have on descendants of our country and planet for the next 150 to 200 years. It's easy to grasp intellectually but difficult on a day-by-day basis. Your decisions about what you eat, what you buy, and how you drive now have huge consequences, potentially good, bad or neutral, for future generations. And try expanding this concept to what you think, what you say, what you believe, how you live......It makes you realize how significant you really are to the world. Think about it! Welcome to the new level of accountability.

Many blessings,

Tiffany

 

August 02, 2008

In Search of "A New Earth"

Like many you, I've read Ekart Tolle's A New Earth. In fact, I've read it twice, eagerly highlighting with yellow marker as I went along. Although I am not an avid Oprah book club reader, when she first suggested the book, I decided to give it a try. I had read Tolle's previous book, The Power of Now, and I was open to hearing what else he had to say. Again, like many of you, A New Earth was an epiphany for me. I always realized there was something a little off with the way many individuals (not necessarily excluding myself) were so driven by the future, past and all things external. This book gave me a name to use to describe it--the ego. It also gave me a solution--focus on the "now." It's been about four months since in finished my second reading of the book. The epiphany has faded. Putting Tolle's words into action has been challenging. Living in the "now" is really hard! There's always something from the future or past that seems to creep into my thoughts. But I'm not giving up. And I do have my moments--when I'm walking home, and I see the wind in the trees and the birds flying in the blue sky speckled with white clouds. I am so there and peaceful in those moments. I can even let them go when I reach my front door.

Many blessings,
Tiffany

July 31, 2008

What the Hay!


I just finished watching best-selling author and publisher Louise Hay being interviewed on the Tavis Smiley show. Talk about amazing! At 81, Louise says she's as excited about life as she has ever been. She is a testament for those of us (like me) who want to grow older with enthusiasm. She told Tavis how her ultimate goal when she self-published her first book more than 20 years ago was simply to help people. Her publishing empire, Hay House, now a multi-million dollar company, flowed naturally from this desire. Louise's book, You Can Heal Your Life, is a must read for anyone interested in affirmations and positive thinking as a pathway to well-being. It's one of my personal favorites. So I will leave you with the parting affirmations, courtesy of Louise, to change your life by changing your thoughts. Try saying these several times a day and let me know how they work out for you:

1. All is well.
2. Everything is working for my highest good. 
3. I am safe.

Many blessings,

Tiffany 

July 25, 2008

Celebrate Good Times....Come On!

It crept up on me. July 2 came and went with no fanfare. It was my 10 year anniversary of living in Chicago. I remember pulling up to my apartment 10 years ago fresh from college looking forward to my first adult job and life in Chicago. I was all shiny and new. I didn't know if I was up for life away from friends and family in the big city. But I was up for the challenge. I wanted to see everything and go everywhere. I couldn't believe the first time I was on Lake Shore Drive. The city and lake views were amazing--just like in the movies. Sometime over the last 10 years, Chicago lost its mystique and simply became my beloved home. I'm a believer that it's important to take time to acknowledge and events in your life, no matter how big or small. That's why I decided to take a day (although after the fact) to celebrate the life I've built for myself in Chicago. It'll be just me and my city. Maybe, I'll even take a drive along Lake Shore Drive.  

July 14, 2008

Dear Diary.....

I've kept a journal on and off since I was six. I remember my first one. It was green with a lock--if you can believe it. I kept the tiny key with me at all times to keep my deepest heart desires protected. It was my very own confidant. Every night, I would write about my first grade trials and tribulations. The writing has faded some and the cover is now missing but I still have this diary along with my other 20 or so that have followed. There's something about pouring your thoughts and feelings out onto an empty page. It's cathartic. That's why I wanted to make sure I carried journals at MyMantra.  Sometimes, when I'm feeling nostalgic, I go back and read my journals. It's fun to see what I had to say when I was in high school, starting my career or just moving to Chicago. It's fun to realized how serious things were for you at one time that no longer phase you. It serves as reassurance that my current challenges will also pass. I wonder if I will feel the same way 20 years from now when I my current  journal. I will keep you posted.

 Tiffany

January 10, 2008

The Sunrise Surprise

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I'll be honest with you. I am not a morning person. Usually, I force myself out of bed after hitting the snooze button two or three times. But recently, I woke up a lot earlier than planned and just decided to stay up to catch the sunrise. It was surprisingly and simply amazing.

At that moment, there was nothing more humbling than the thought of the sun rising each morning no matter how wonderful, disappointing or mundane the day before may have been. 

As the days grow shorter, I am even more appreciative. Every sunrise ushers in a new day with the promise of something new, better, different--and if you're lucky, more of the same.

Many blessings,

Tiffany Green
  
 
 

The Sunrise Surprise

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I'll be honest with you. I am not a morning person. Usually, I force myself out of bed after hitting the snooze button two or three times. But recently, I woke up a lot earlier than planned and just decided to stay up to catch the sunrise. It was surprisingly and simply amazing.

At that moment, there was nothing more humbling than the thought of the sun rising each morning no matter how wonderful, disappointing or mundane the day before may have been. 

As the days grow shorter, I am even more appreciative. Every sunrise ushers in a new day with the promise of something new, better, different--and if you're lucky, more of the same.

Many blessings,

Tiffany Green